In addition to being patient and compassionate with yourself along the way try to focus on what s in your control and the problems that you can solve. You can watch the original video i recorded below and keep reading for a breakdown of what i teach in it plus new lessons.
Taking on other people s problems could be a distraction so that we can ignore or deny our own problems.
How not to get involved in other people s problems. Don t judge others and they may be less likely to judge you. Find out what works best for you. As human beings we have a natural instinct to socialize and be compassionate and support the ones closest to us but when is it time to stay out of the way mind our own business and not let ourselves focus too much on the affairs of other people.
You ignore or deny your own problems. Your boss colleagues husband mother in law friends and children let them all find their own solutions. Having a safe space to retreat practicing mindfulness and meditation or visualizing a protective shield around yourself are other methods that can help restore balance when boundaries are invaded.
Learn to communicate your boundaries in a clear and consistent way. Don t get involved in other people s problems. Helping others and being involved with other people s lives can be important in recovery.
It can begin to feel like the only way to show your love is to prostrate yourself at the needs of others. Lemme swoop in and save the day. Lemme dump my savings into your bank account and all will be well.
After all how could we possibly focus on our hopes dreams goals and problems when so much else is going on around us. And remember that if you re feeling particularly frustrated with your inability to change or solve a problem you may be trying to solve someone else s problem. Your boss colleagues husband mother in law friends and children let them all find their own solutions.
There is a fine line between being there for someone and. The best way to avoid that is to stop telling other people what to do. Their problems belong to them not to you.
Let them feel what life is really about and let them feel the satisfaction of being able to find their own solutions. Helping other people can become addictive. Their problems belong to them not to you.
We all have to make compromises. If you ever try to fix other people s problems or make yourself responsible for their happiness i hope the tips i offer in this post will help you to release that need. Let them feel what life is really about and let them feel the satisfaction of being able to find their own solutions.
Don t get involved in other people s problems.